If you are like the great majority of people, you are not accustomed to public speaking. Even if you are a man, huge emotions can still overwhelm you when you have to deliver the father of the groom speech having a large audience in front of you. But have you ever wondered why you are feeling in this way when it comes to speaking while many persons are looking at you? The main cause of this fear of public speaking is represented by a poor preparation.
Helping you to properly prepare your toast for your son’s wedding is the main purpose for which I created this useful website. An essential preparation stage refers to the composition of the content of the oration. In some of the previous posts of this website I revealed you that one of the secrets of the successful wedding speeches is that they follow the usual format: intro, body, ending. In other words, a great speech has to begin with a short preliminary part, it must contain an important midsection and it should conclude with a brief final part.
In this post I proposed to present an overview of the main ideas that should be covered in any successful introduction of such a wedding speech. If you are introduced to the guests by another person (a master of ceremony or the individual who has offered a toast just before you, in case you are not the first person to give an oration, the father of groom toast, at your son’s wedding reception), you must thank that person prior to commencing to deliver your oration; a short “Thank you!” is sufficient.
Now let’s talk a little bit about the first words of your toast. It’s a sign of politeness to greet the people who participate to this important reception, the one organized for celebrating your son’s wedding. You can say something very simple, like: “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen!”, “Good afternoon, family, friends, guests, bride and groom!” or even “Hi, everyone!”. Greeting the attendees is not mandatory, because you can begin your father of the groom speech by welcoming the guests. So, in addition to greeting, welcoming is another thing you ought to do during the first section of your oration. If you go through the toast examples and templates that are included in the resource that you can find on this website, you will discover numerous ways of warmly welcoming the wedding participants.
Thanking your friends and the guests for being there, with you, for celebrating the union of your son (the bridegroom) and his wife (your new daughter-in-law), is something that you must not forget to do during your father of groom toast. It’s not mandatory to thank them in the first part of your oration; you can do that in the second section (the body) of your toast.
Along with greeting, welcoming and expressing your gratitude for having so many friends and guests with you, on this special occasion, you should also present yourself to your public, if neither the preceding speaker, nor the presenter or the master of ceremony, if any, introduced you to the audience. You can say who you are in a direct manner (“…I’m the groom’s father”) or in an indirect manner (“Welcome to my son’s wedding!”). It’s useful to tell who you are in the first part of your father of the groom speech, so that the guests know who is talking to them. You should also keep in mind that a carefully chosen joke, poem or quotation would go perfectly well in the opening of your oration.