Do you know why most wedding speeches fail? It’s because whoever gives the speech doesn’t interact with the audience at all. It’s like he/she is a robot, reading a story from a piece of paper. Don’t ever do that. Read this article to find out more about this and how important this is for delivering a great speech (click here for some speech examples where you actually interact with the audience).
In the following paragraphs you will discover not only the precise categories of guests that should be included in the wedding speeches that are delivered by the men whose sons are getting married, but also the reasons for which it is so important to involve these persons in your discourse and even the modalities in which you should make these guests become a part of your talk.
To put it more accurately, this post provides useful answers to the questions: “Who?”, “Why?” and “How?”, related to the fact of interacting with the audience while offering a speech at a bridal reception.
WHY to Involve Other Persons in Your Speech?
It’s recommended to interact with your audience for two main reasons:
- You have some family and moral obligations to include them into your talk. These duties and responsibilities are caused by your actual relationship to one of the newlyweds: you are the father of the groom, and exactly this important position gives you these obligations, about which you will find out more in the subsequent sections. All I can tell you right now is that your most important duties during such a talk refer to: greeting, thanking, welcoming, congratulating, complimenting, describing, telling, proposing a toast and maybe offering some hints.
- This is one of your discourse’s aspects that are mandatory for making your listeners enjoy you and your talk. This is happening because, on the one hand, if you involve the attendees in your speech, you show them that they are important to you, to your family and, therefore, to the newlyweds, and this simple fact, of being a part of your discourse, will make the guests feel very well and, as a result, they will remember and speak with a lot of pleasure about your talk. On the other hand, if you don’t interact with the persons who will look at you and listen to you, they won’t like that and, consequently, they will dislike your discourse and maybe even you, your family and the newlyweds. So, make sure you will meet their expectations.
WHO Should Be Included in a Father of the Groom Speech?
In this section of this article that is dedicated to the father of the groom wedding speeches, I reveal the persons and also the groups of persons whom you ought to interact with while speaking at your son’s bridal reception. The newlyweds are the most important individuals from this point of view. You should interact with them both separately and unitary. More details regarding the ways in which you should make them a part of your talk are provided in the next section of this article.
The bride’s parents are other persons important to you. If you speak also on your wife’s, the groom’s mother, behalf, it’s very obvious that you need to include her too, in your talk. If your family organizes the bridal ceremony or reception, another essential responsibility of yours is to interact also with the wedding assistants, who are those who helped you with the organization. In fact, all the guests should be included in your discourse, in a very simple manner, as you will see in the next paragraphs.
HOW to Interact with Them?
By reading this section you will discover not only the modalities in which you should interact with these individuals, but also the precise reasons for which you ought to include in your father of the groom speech each of the persons and groups mentioned in the previous paragraphs. It’s important to mention this because, in the section that is dedicated to the reasons for which you should interact with your audience, I provided only the general motives, that is to say, those which refer to including all the guests or any of them.
First and foremost, it’s essential to know the major modalities of including a person or a group of persons into your talk. They are:
- Mentioning them during your discourse, either individually or as a whole, either directly or indirectly. For example, you should speak in the second person and you should ask some short questions during your talk. In this way, you will address to all the attendees, so you mention them indirectly.
- Looking at them.
Let’s begin with the key persons, the newlyweds, with whom you ought to interact both unitarily and separately. First of all, you should bless them and their union, and also propose a toast from them, usually in the last part of your father of groom speech. Here are the manners in which you have to interact with each of them; these modalities reveal also your responsibilities, or the ones of your talk, towards each of them:
- Congratulating your son, who will be the groom, for the lovely woman he decided to marry with.
- Welcoming the bride, who will be your recent daughter-in-law, in your family.
- Complimenting the bride.
- Offering a short description of your son, telling some moments from his childhood or how meeting the bride changed him for the better.
While interacting with any of the persons present at the reception, you should look at them. Thanking the bride’s parents for the wonderful education they gave to your new daughter-in-law is another thing you should do. It’s highly recommended to express your gratitude for the persons who helped or organized the ceremony or party, as well as for the guests who are present at the reception and even for the absent ones, who sent gifts.
In fact, if you will read the father of the groom speech examples and templates that are provided in the resource promoted by this website, you will discover an interesting fact: all the wedding attendees should be included in such a talk, even from its beginning, when you greet and welcome them to your son’s marriage party. All the guests are involved in the discourse also when speaking in the second person or asking questions and addressing to all of them, when looking at most of them and especially in the final section of the speech, when you request them to lift their glasses of wine in the air and drink for the happiness of the new couple.